Seven reasons nothing you tried for your sleep ever worked
Seven reasons nothing you tried for your sleep ever worked.
Not one of them is you.
The fourth one is the closest anybody ever got, and it is the one nobody has explained to you properly.
You have probably had this conversation.
You tell them you cannot sleep. They ask whether you have tried melatonin. You say yes. They tell you it is probably anxiety, or your age, and that you should try to relax before bed.
One of them was told to pray about it.
My doctors always blow me off and tell me to pray.
Well, you just need to let your mind relax.
It was all in my head.
They think I have not tried all of the things I said.
Doctors do not understand how bad it is. They say take Melatonin, or we can give you a prescription for a month or 2.
So you go home with nothing, and you add one more thing to the list of things that did not work.
And if you ask the women on the other side of that conversation why they think each thing failed, the answer comes back the same almost every time.
I have no idea.
I honestly have no clue.
I don't know why it didn't work.
A few had stopped looking for a reason outside themselves and settled on one inside instead. Body stubbornness. Brain won't shut off. Nothing works for me.
So here is the list, and here is the reason each one failed. Which is the part nobody has bothered to tell you.
Melatonin
It is the first thing everybody suggests and the first thing everybody tries. More women named it than named anything else.
Melatonin is a starting signal. It tells your body that it is night. It does not keep telling it, and it is finished with you within a few hours. Which is exactly why it gets described the way one woman put it: "Sometimes it helps me get to sleep and sometimes it does not help at all."
If your night breaks at 2 in the morning, melatonin was not in the room when it happened.
Prescription sleeping tablets
This is the one most of them held out the most hope for. It is also the one that charged them the most for it.
I tried Ambien. It caused hallucinations.
Trazodone. Keeps me asleep for about 3 hours, makes me feel groggy.
Sleep medications made me walk in my sleep, or get out of bed and stand sleeping by the bed all night.
Lunesta. Took it, but still couldn't sleep.
They do not repair a night. They switch you off, and then they hand you the bill in the morning. And when you go back and ask for more, at some point you are told no.
Antihistamines
Benadryl. Tylenol PM. The blue ones from the supermarket.
The same trade as the tablets, bought without asking anybody. They make you heavy rather than sleepy, you wake up feeling like you were switched off and switched back on, and your body stops responding to them within a fortnight anyway.
Magnesium on its own
This is the one that should have worked. It is also the closest anybody got, which is why it is worth stopping on.
Magnesium on its own is one ingredient doing one job. Almost everything sold on a shelf is built to help you get down, and it is finished with you a few hours later. There is nothing beside it to carry the rest of the night.
If getting down was never your only problem, a single ingredient was never going to reach the part that was.
Gummies, CBD and THC
One woman summarised the entire category in nine words: "It does make me sleep, but not till the morning."
Same shape as everything above it on this list.
Teas, white noise, apps, a cooler room
Music. Nice to listen to, but did not make me sleepy.
White noise. I hoped the noise would be soothing and help me stay asleep.
None of these are foolish. They are simply addressed to your mind, at bedtime. And your problem is not happening in your mind, at bedtime.
The advice
No screens after nine. No coffee after lunch. More exercise. Cooler room. Same bedtime every night. Wind down. Relax.
Every one of these quietly puts the job back on you. And when it does not work, the unspoken second half of it is that you must not have done it properly.
You did it properly. That is not what is going wrong.
Now look at the list again
Every single thing on it has one job. Getting you down.
Not one of them is still working at the hour your night actually breaks. The melatonin is long gone. The tablet has peaked and is on its way out. The tea was three hours ago.
A night needs two things. Getting you down, and keeping you there. You have been sold the first one, over and over, at every price, by everybody, including the person who was supposed to be helping you.
And there is a second half nobody says out loud
Your hormones are not what they were at 20. One of the things they used to hold in place was the clock your body keeps at night, and cortisol is what runs that clock. It is meant to come down through the evening and climb again near morning.
When it does not come down, you lie there for hours.
When it climbs early, you come up at 2 and cannot get back.
That is why it happens at the same time every night. Worry does not keep a schedule. A hormone does.
Which brings us to the thing that is actually different
It is not exotic and it is not new. It is magnesium, with a full 200mg of L-Theanine and 50mg of apigenin, alongside GABA, glycine, lemon balm and passion flower. One complete formula, in the amounts they are supposed to be in, rather than one ingredient hoping to do the work of six.
And it is taken after dinner, not at bedtime.
That one change is most of the point. Taken with your evening meal, it is already working by the time you go up, and it is still working at the hour your night goes wrong, whichever of the two hours that turns out to be for you.
It is called Veylor. It is not a sedative, it is not habit forming, and there is nothing in it for your body to get used to.
Women who started where you are
"I've tried lots of different supplements in the hopes of them doing what they say they'll do. This is one of the only ones I've taken that I actually notice a difference. I take these after I eat dinner and it definitely helps me wind down. I also seem to be sleeping through the night without waking up multiple times."
Kelly D.
"I have been a 'wake up at 2am' person for the last 15 years. When I take 2 of these I sleep through the night. Will be my go-to from now on."
Cathy W.
"These do help my overall sleep. However they aren't sleeping pills, so you don't take them and fall asleep. I don't think I noticed a difference until about the third night. After that I did fall asleep quicker and had a more restful sleep. By the end of the week I really had improved sleep overall."
Susan S.
"I am 48 and post menopausal so my sleep has been really hit and miss. Waking up several times through the night and not sleeping well when I was asleep. I get a good nights rest now and wake up refreshed."
Andrea H.
What actually happens, so you do not stop too early
This is the part that gets left out, and it is the reason people throw away something that was working.
- The first week is usually quiet. That is the shape of it, and it is where most people give up.
- Around night 8 the evening stops feeling braced and you go down easier.
- By week 4 you are waking less, and when you do wake you go back down instead of lying there.
- Through week 6 it keeps building. Not every night. Enough of them that you stop counting.
90 nights, and we carry the risk, not you.
Take it every night for 90 days. If you are not getting to sleep easier and staying there, email us and we refund you. No form, no phone tree, nothing to send back, and nothing to argue about. We give 90 days rather than 30 because it keeps building for six weeks, and a 30 day window would have you sending it back before it had finished.
The only thing you are risking is finding out
You have already given years to the list above. Another month of the same is another thirty nights, and another thirty days after them, spent the way you already know they get spent.
You have been told it is your age, or your anxiety, or that it is all in your head. It was none of those. It was a clock, and every single thing you were handed was aimed at the wrong end of it.
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